Anonymous said: HI STEAK! 21/male here! my girlfriend and I hit this phase in our relationship that every single thing we do annoys the other person. It's literally like we cannot stand being with eachother but when I'm not with her all I want to do is be with her and I feel crazy! Weve live together almost a year now and been dating Almost 2 years I wanna know if/when it will pass and if there's anything I can do to bring back the sparks/magic/mushy gushy love from the beginning or how
It WILL pass ,kinda. Relationships take work. And the longer you’re in them the more work it’s takes it . There’s a saying
“It’s easy to fall in love, it’s hard work to remain in love”.
That’s because as life goes on, the honeymoon stage ends and the real world sets in, your partner isn’t a shiny new thing to play with anymore and you have ups and downs. That’s why it’s important to enter a relationship with a friend and not just someone you like to look at, having a friendship makes things slightly easier.
If you wanna get back on track you have to do these two things:
Check your ego: you don’t have to win every fight, you don’t have to prove a point, you don’t have to internalize. Stop fighting back. Fine, she thinks she’s right.. Let her be. Don’t fight back for awhile and let the tension mellow out.
Wake up everyday and think one one reason why you like/love her.
I’m telling you these things because you don’t have to make it a team project to “fix it”.. You can actually just lead the way and if it’s gonna work then she’ll follow suit (after an annoying month of you biting your tongue)